went cycling with xb at ecp last night. laughZ so ironic. the way things were and the way things have become. it seems like the pendulum has swung for both of us - one questioning, one withholding. and so we come one full circle to stand at opposite ends once again. how dramatic.
we talked abt quite a lot of stuff. really nice. don't wanna judge the quality of outings... some things shudn't be judged.
social networks. along the way, i remember telling myself not to be closed to opportunities. but somehow ugh the gate of my social circle just barred their way up on their own. just like history repeating itself. and i realized it, but i forgot the commitment i laid down for myself. the same old qn pops out: is it better to have a small group of close friends, or a large network of ppl you keep in contact with. cos both takes effort. in the former, u look for depth. in the latter, u look for breadth.
sometimes its very disillusioning, esp when 2 people from different sides meet. the deep guy wants to improve the quality of the relationship but the broad guy feels its overbearing. or the broad guy wants to remain in contact but the deep guy can't be bothered to reply to someone whom is not in his inner circle. or am i like just. overgeneralizing issues that i have with myself. assuming that ppl face the problems i do. taking false consolation in the assumption that i'm not the strange and weird one to experience bursts of neuroticism like aforementioned.
i read in the social psych txtbk that men are collectivistic while women are more relational. are those the correct terms? lolz can't remember but the ideas are that men are more group-based where women are more one-one based. of course, i deny and defy that stereotype. but haiz it's so tiring to be different. it has its rewards sure, but it's a double-edged sword that cuts deeply in both directions.
Name: Foo Guo Zhong Melvyn
Age: 19+
Affiliations: MSHS (Pri), Rosyth, RI, RJC, SFX (LoG)
Bday: 14th Nov
Email: mel_protoss@hotmail.com
went cycling with xb at ecp last night. laughZ so ironic. the way things were and the way things have become. it seems like the pendulum has swung for both of us - one questioning, one withholding. and so we come one full circle to stand at opposite ends once again. how dramatic.
we talked abt quite a lot of stuff. really nice. don't wanna judge the quality of outings... some things shudn't be judged.
social networks. along the way, i remember telling myself not to be closed to opportunities. but somehow ugh the gate of my social circle just barred their way up on their own. just like history repeating itself. and i realized it, but i forgot the commitment i laid down for myself. the same old qn pops out: is it better to have a small group of close friends, or a large network of ppl you keep in contact with. cos both takes effort. in the former, u look for depth. in the latter, u look for breadth.
sometimes its very disillusioning, esp when 2 people from different sides meet. the deep guy wants to improve the quality of the relationship but the broad guy feels its overbearing. or the broad guy wants to remain in contact but the deep guy can't be bothered to reply to someone whom is not in his inner circle. or am i like just. overgeneralizing issues that i have with myself. assuming that ppl face the problems i do. taking false consolation in the assumption that i'm not the strange and weird one to experience bursts of neuroticism like aforementioned.
i read in the social psych txtbk that men are collectivistic while women are more relational. are those the correct terms? lolz can't remember but the ideas are that men are more group-based where women are more one-one based. of course, i deny and defy that stereotype. but haiz it's so tiring to be different. it has its rewards sure, but it's a double-edged sword that cuts deeply in both directions.